Sharing the No-Diet Message Isn’t Easy, But It’s Worth It!

It’s important to remember that ditching dieting is counter-cultural. For those of us who have been “enlightened” and blessed to have discovered intuitive eating, we often want others to drink the proverbial Kool-Aid so that they can discover food freedom too. After all, we know the suffering and the soul-crushing damage dieting can do, and as humans, we want to spare others that pain.

One of the gifts of reawakening the intuitive eater in us is that intuition in many areas of our lives is often restored. Use that intuition to gauge whether or not you think people are ready to learn about this or not. I’ve had many clients, especially in the early phases of their recovery, try to “convert” dieters to intuitive eating and they were met with much opposition. What’s worse is that it made them doubt their decision to continue in their no-diet journey. Thankfully they had proper support in place, but it was still challenging for them nonetheless.

If you’re up to it, I encourage you to share articles, experiences, etc. with your friends, co-workers, and family. If you’re not up for it, that’s okay too. Just know that if you share, there may be some who are oppositional to it. There may not be, but there is always that chance. Again, people don’t always react well to counter-cultural messages because it challenges them to think about things differently and that causes discomfort! So, know that their opposition is more about them and not about you at all. They are simply responding to their discomfort.

I often need to remind myself that even though sharing this work can be scary at times, by putting it out there in the universe, I could be exposing others to something they never knew existed. That’s what propels me to keep doing this work and sharing this message. The notion that someone else could be encouraged to ditch dieting and begin to see that their value isn’t tied to a number on the scale or to the size of their jeans fires me up! And let’s not forget that every time we share this message, we put another nail in the diet culture coffin and then we all benefit!

So, beautiful souls, share your amazing no-diet testimonies with others when you’re ready. If people scoff, remember that it’s about them and not about you! I’m five years into this work and my heart rate increases every time when I hit “Enter” to post an article online, write/comment on a social media post, do a live video, or speak to people about my work. However, I’ve learned not to let that stop me! As I often say, you do you and let others adjust. Remember, you’re always free to share your message in the No-Diet Sisterhood on Facebook.

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What Does “I Feel Fat” Really Mean?

I know, this is a very provocative question, right? 

I cannot tell you how often I hear my clients say, “I feel so fat!” (and fat isn’t a bad thing) or “I just hate my _______ (fill in the body part)”. I get it. There was a time when I would often say things like this too. It’s much less often now, but when I realized that all of that hating was just a distraction from looking at the underlying emotions that were really causing the lack of body acceptance, things began to change for me.

To help my clients with this, I’ll weave intriguing questions like this one into our discussions to uncover what could be going on beneath the surface. When we dig a little deeper we’ll discover, for example, that they’re feeling discomfort about establishing boundaries with a family member or friend; they’re lacking confidence in a particular area; or they’re feeling unworthy or “not enough” in some capacity of their lives. Or, if they’re still entrenched in diet mentality, they could also be feeling guilty about a food(s) they recently ate and it’s masquerading as body dissatisfaction. (HINT: This is why it’s so important not to ignore body image issues.) Asking these questions helps my clients experience a shift in perspective or belief. When this happens, the proverbial light bulb goes off in their minds which creates space for new thoughts and behaviors to begin developing. This is where the seeds for real growth are witnessed. 

Fostering this awareness can be a game changer in relation to improving relationships with food and body acceptance. If we continue to believe that having X type of body and/or seeing X number on the scale will make us happier and/or feel fulfilled, we will continue to be dissatisfied and frustrated with our current weight, body and life. On the contrary, when we are willing to translate what these harmful messages are really trying to tell us, the possibilities for healing grow exponentially.

I’ve attached a free resource for you to use the next time you find yourself saying “I feel ______ (insert negative word here).” This image was created by Me and My ED . I encourage you to check out their website for other great resources. Click here to download your help sheet.  

How is this concept landing for you? Do you believe that your constant or occasional body dissatisfaction could be an indication that there is something deeper to explore? 

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