What Diet Culture Gets Wrong About Maintaining Nourishing Habits

recommit.jpg

Do you feel like a failure when you fall out of a nourishing habit?

So often people like failures when they realize they’ve slipped out of a nourishing habit(s). Many of my clients often feel frustrated and even bewildered by this. They know what makes them feel their best, but for some reason, they just aren’t doing it or aren't doing it with regularity. Following the frustration and bewilderment are also feelings of guilt, shame, and often, further inaction.⁣

While I know first-hand how disappointing this can be, I have a provocative proposition for you. What if instead of continuing to focus on what you’re not doing, you acknowledged that it’s an opportunity to recommit instead?

Healing a relationship with food, body, and movement is about moving closer to the people we are meant to be. It's also about remaining flexible instead of rigid so we can evolve and flourish. Keeping your heart open and acknowledging that habits elude us for a variety of reasons like

  • They're no longer nourishing us because we've outgrown them

  • Realizing expectations were set too high so they were not sustainable

  • Acknowledging that different types of self-care and/or boundary setting is needed

is essential for sustainable change.

Whatever the reason, these are opportunities to reevaluate, ask your body what it needs at this time, and then compassionately and non-judgmentally recommit to yourself again.

Diet culture preaches that we need to be "disciplined" and "accountable". While these qualities can be helpful in fostering change, when they are used as weapons to keep us "on the wagon", they're often counterproductive! This is especially true with movement which is why I created my Joyful Movement at Last! program.

As always, taking the compassionate approach is advised not just because it feels better but because research shows it's more effective in creating sustainable change. To me, that's what a recommitment is. It's a gentle way to start over by reassessing your needs and realigning them with your core values.

Understanding that making adjustments along the way is a necessary part of the healing process is essential for success. Doing this will help to cultivate and strengthen your habits to meet your ever-changing needs.

What nourishing habit would you like to recommit to?

Remember, you don't have to do this alone. Let’s have a conversation so you understand how coaching can support you in your healing journey.

Navigating “Comparisonitis” to Meet Our Bodies Where They Are

biking.jpg

Do you ever compare your previous body to your current body?

That's what I found myself doing earlier this week when I saw the picture in my Facebook feed. My body has changed since this picture was taken in 2013. At that time, I was an avid cyclist, Spin class “junkie” and smoothie drinking vegetarian. I didn’t realize at the time that I was likely orthorexic (obsession about eating “unhealthy” foods) but that’s a story for another time. ⁣

To be honest, for a moment I lamented that I’m not as thin or as physically fit as I was at that time, but it was truly momentary. ⁣I knew that was diet culture talking.

While I may not be at the same fitness level or weight I was then, I’m now moving my body for different reasons and I still feel great doing it. I'm also way more grateful for all that my body is able to do.

During my recovery, I've learned that if I allowed myself to get stuck in "comparisonitis" by focusing on how my body used to be, it could easily lead to depression and INACTIVITY. ⁣Over the years, I’ve heard many of my clients say that they don’t like exercise because they cannot do X anymore because of an injury, they're "too lazy", or because of their own internalized weight stigma.

When we gently explore more, they begin to see that the comparisonitis is often about perfectionism to do movement in a certain way, fear that they will start and quit, and self-sabotage because they create unrealistic demands setting themselves up for failure. ⁣

I assure you, it can be different though. Like most aspects of recovery, creating something different requires that beliefs be rewritten. This rewriting clears the emotional cobwebs and "shoulds" making room for a new and improved relationship with movement allowing them to meet their bodies where they're at now, instead of where they were 5, 10, or 15 years ago. I've experienced this personally and seen it with my courageous clients!

Imagine how your life could improve if you met your body where it's at now?

Interested in movement but not sure where to begin? My Joyful Movement at Last! program creates the space for you to recreate a healthy relationship with movement wherever your body is now. It also offers support in a dedicated Facebook group. Join us!

The Truth about Belly Fat: Is It "Unhealthy"?

bell fat.jpg

Raise your hand if you've got a belly roll(s).

Yep, I've got them too! In fact, I've had a belly roll for as long as I can remember, even when I was at my thinnest.

Most of my clients say that they have the most difficulty accepting their swishy bellies. In fact, this is one of the more common reasons why people feel the need to lose weight because they fear that belly fat is "unhealthy".

The Health At Every Size research indicates higher weights may be correlated with poor health, but it reminds us that it doesn't guarantee that it causes poor health. Still, ob*sity is constantly talked about in the media, in clinical spaces, in social circles, and at the holiday dinner table.

It's not just the claims that higher weights are "unhealthy" but more specifically that belly fat is downright dangerous.

While there is some biased research that visceral fat (the type of fat that wraps around abdominal organs) may increase some health risks, what most don't realize is that visceral fat can be found in people with flat bellies too. So, one cannot automatically assume that people in larger bodies or with bigger abdomens have visceral belly fat. For the record, visceral fat can only be determined by undergoing expensive medical scans.

The other type of belly fat is what we see when we look in the mirror. It's called subcutaneous fat (like in the image above). Everyone has some subcutaneous fat. How much we have is typically impacted by lifestyle factors such as diet and exercise, genetics, yo-yo dieting, and stress.

I'd be lying if I told you that I never worry about my abdominal fat sometimes because I do, especially since menopause. My guess is that you worry sometimes too. You may even worry enough to feel like you need to do something about it like lose weight or cut carbs, etc. If that's you, I understand, and I'm not surprised! After all, we're human and diet culture is very influential, especially when they start throwing the word "health" around!

However, let's just say for argument's sake that both types of abdominal fat do put our bodies at risk.

What can be done about it that will be sustainable and may also help to reduce certain health risks?

  • Stop dieting and restricting to avoid bingeing

  • Embrace and learn to Integrate gentle nutrition (principle 10) into your daily life (if you're at that stage or your recovery)

  • Focus on food satisfaction and honoring your hunger/fullness as often as you can

  • Get support to navigate any emotional barriers you have to exercise so you can intuitively increase your cardiovascular and aerobic exercise

  • Discover ways to improve your sleep if this is an issue for you (i.e. get a CPAP, try meditation, create a sleep routine, etc.)

  • Focus on improving your mental health, especially as it relates to anxiety and stress

Notice how I never mentioned losing weight? That's because even with the possibility that abdominal fat increases the risk of certain illnesses, dieting is STILL not the solution. In fact, dieting may even increase abdominal fat. And, research indicates that dieting increases stress-causing elevated cortisol levels negatively affecting the body, including increased abdominal fat.

The solution is to continue working toward body acceptance and spend your time and energy creating more nourishing and compassionate self-care habits. That's what will likely improve your physical and emotional health in the long-run but dieting won't.

Struggling with this?
Schedule some time with me so we can have a conversation and you can finally stop worrying! You don't have to do this alone. Getting this sorted out will make a substantial difference in your life.

Is 'fat but fit' a myth?

fat woman treadmill.jpg

Last week, in one of the professional groups where I belong, someone posted an article about fitness and fat, specifically as it relates to heart disease.

Even though this article had a very definitive bottom line,

"What we see is that the risk factor burden increases by weight category. Obese people have the highest burden of associated risk factors. That remains true according to the activity level,"

I was able to discern that the research was lacking important parameters that very likely would have changed its overall findings.

The article does say this, "This is a cross sectional study -- all we can talk about is associations, we cannot talk about causality," This is very important because this is verifying that they cannot prove with certainty that the associated parameters like BMI (Body Mass Index) category (i.e, "ob*se and "over*eight") was the cause of the cardiovascular disease. As a reminder, BMI was never intended to be used to measure health, but I will mention it throughout as it pertains to the study.

I won't pretend that I'm a research expert, but I do know from my professional training that articles like this are weight-biased and detrimental to our health.

It's weight-biased because the research is missing critical key parameters. For example, it doesn't mention a person's genetic predisposition to heart disease (or other conditions like diabetes, etc.) their previous dieting history, mental health history, or exposure to weight stigma (which often leads to increased binge eating, higher mortality rates, depression, anxiety, addiction, etc.). All of these factors may influence a person's overall well-being and that matters significantly. Without this information, this study is biased.

However, what bothers me most of all is this biased study could easily frighten someone who is in a higher BMI category to start dieting again because they believe that it is the 'responsible' thing to do to reduce their risk of heart disease, etc. This is something I hear all the time from my clients and what I wrote about in last weeks message.

My clients, and women I support in my No Diet Sisterhood, often send me similar articles asking me what I think, etc. because they feel scared after reading articles like this. After carefully reading the articles, to date, my answer has always been the same: the article is weight-biased and dieting isn't the answer to achieving good 'health'.

Using scare tactics as a means to encourage people to exercise (or do anything else) is ineffective and often moves people further away from their goals because they feel hopeless. This hopelessness often causes inaction and may lead to depression and other negative health outcomes.

The Health at Every Size (HAES)/intuitive eating approach to movement is more compassionate and more effective. Instead of stigmatizing and fear-mongering people who are in higher BMI categories to engage in movement because it's "healthy", they encourage cultivating sustainable self-care practices and habits that are realistic and individualized. This way they will likely feel better, improve their metabolic health, and live more joyful lives. In fact, research shows that non-stigmatizing interventions are much more effective for altering health outcomes than anything else.

Studies like this, the crushing judgments and rigidity of diet culture, perfectionism, guilt-tripping, and not understanding that movement is a self-care practice all keep people away from movement. Most think it's a time management issue or that they're "too lazy". But, when we dig a little deeper, they discover that what they really fear is that they won’t be able to cultivate a healthy relationship with movement because they cannot cut through the emotional barriers needed to get there. This is definitely what the alumni members in my Joyful Movement at Last! program have discovered.

For anyone who struggles with articles like this that make them second-guess the path they're on with intuitive eating, you don't need to anymore. Now that you've been introduced to these concepts, you'll more easily recognize that many articles like this are weight-biased and use ineffective scare tactics. Be sure to question "research" and don't allow it to change your course of action, especially if your course of action is moving you closer to the freedom you deserve.

The bottom line...

If you want to feel better and make movement a priority in your life but are feeling 'stuck', I encourage you to take my new FREE quiz What's Getting in Your Way of Exercising with Ease? to find out what's really holding you back. I promise you, it's likely not what you think.

Helping women to cultivate more compassionate, self-care focused habits like giving themselves full permission to eat without the emotional restriction (guilt, worry, etc.), integrating gentle nutrition into your daily life, and rediscovering movement without slipping back into diet mentality is my jam.

Schedule some time with me so we can have a conversation around this so you can finally stop worrying! You don't have to do this alone. Getting this sorted out will make a difference in your life.

Why Losing Weight for Medical Reasons Still Isn’t the Answer to Getting ‘Healthy’

diet.jpg

Time and time again I hear clients and read comments in online spaces about people feeling that they need to lose weight for 'health' reasons.

Some may have even been told by a medical professional that weight loss is the only way to correct their declining health issues.

Years ago, when my cholesterol was consistently going up and my high blood pressure was undiagnosed, my doctors had recommended weight loss too, so I understand how concerning this can be.

If you've been told you need to lose weight because your metabolic health (i.e., blood pressure, cholesterol, blood sugar) is declining, I want to share a few important points as a reframe.

First, you've done nothing wrong to make any of it happen despite what you may have been told or what may have been implied. Remember that a previous history with dieting, genetics, movement, and stress play a significant role in this equation.

Second, instead of blaming your body, thank and appreciate it for giving you some important information that you can now address and begin to heal from.

Third, remember that even if weight loss was going to solve all your health issues, how would you maintain that loss without engaging in deprivation, food restriction, and compensatory exercise habits?

Fourth, while I know that research isn't very 'sexy', there are plenty of research studies indicating that following intuitive eating/Health At Every Size (HAES) often helps to normalize metabolic health naturally without dieting or restricting.

Fifth, I get that the knee-jerk reaction is to immediately think that losing weight is the answer that will solve all your worries, research also shows that weight loss is not sustainable long-term and also that weight stigma plays a significant role in overall health outcomes.

Sixth, reflecting on your own experiences with intentional weight loss will remind you that it's not typically sustainable and even when it is, it's with tremendous effort and often leads to poor emotional health. Let's remember that our mental health is equally as important as our metabolic health.

The bottom line...

If you want to work toward rediscovering balance in every sense of the word, my professional advice is to stay on your intuitive eating/HAES path. A recent diagnosis or health scare is NOT the time to diet (nor is any other time). Instead, it is the time to start or continue cultivating more compassionate, self-care focused habits that are sustainable. Over time, that is what will very likely bring your levels back within a normal range again and also improve your emotional health.

Helping women to cultivate more compassionate, self-care focused habits like giving themselves full permission to eat without the emotional restriction (guilt, worry, etc.), integrating gentle nutrition into your daily life, and rediscovering movement without slipping back into diet mentality is my jam.

Schedule some time with me so we can have a conversation around this so you can finally stop worrying! You don't have to do this alone. Getting this sorted out will make a difference in your life.

8 Tips to Help Manage Emotional Fatigue During Tumultuous Times

self care is a priority.jpg

f you're anything like me, you've felt like you've been on an emotional roller coaster since March. Let's break this down for a minute. First it was COVID-19 and all that came along with that. Now it's the justifiable protests over the George Floyd murder. And, if all of that isn't enough, we are all starting to come out of our 10 week-ish hibernation from the horrific COVID-19. Wow, right?! 

Would you agree that there is a lot going on right now?

For the first time in many weeks, I woke up on Monday morning feeling emotionally depleted. 

When I reflected on my week, I realized that I was putting more effort into my reflection work, learning and researching than I was into my self-care. I now see that if I want to feel better and remain sane, something has to change. In an effort to right the wrongs in the world, I was trying to consume lots of information in a short period of time. I was reminded that this isn't a race but a marathon with no official finish line. 

This applies to our intuitive eating practices too! If we remain open and honest with ourselves, we can always be in a place of learning. As we grow and age, we will always have new things to explore about our bodies and about our eating practices because growth and age change us, and they are supposed to. Staying open to this concept is what makes acceptance possible. 

Now more than ever self-care must take a front seat. As @glowmaven said so well, "Self-care is critical to restore ourselves and to move past survival mode and into thrive mode." As humans, there is a lot coming at all of us all the time! The way to shield ourselves from it so we don't feel depleted is to ensure our self-care "batteries" are continually being charged. I'm sharing a few tips to help make this easier:

  1. Create boundaries around social media and the news 
    If you're one who is easily sucked into the social media vortex (which I am guilty of sometimes!), literally set up time parameters around it. To help with this, set timers on your cell phone that cue you to get off Facebook or _________ (insert social media or news cast here) once the timer goes off. And no snoozing the alarm! If you have a timer on your oven or a standalone timer, you can set that timer for X number of minutes. I like this idea because it forces you to get out of your seat to turn it off! 
     

  2. Keep asking your body what it needs
    This is always imperative to thriving with your intuitive eating practice and with your body image work. It's not possible to improve your relationship with food or with your body if you don't know what it needs So, if you need to set timers on your phone to remind yourself to do a quick body scan to check in with yourself, do it. Over time, this will become more organic so you may not need the reminders so much or at all going forward.
     

  3. Lean into the emotional discomfort with more self-compassion
    In regard to the #BLM movement, many of us are realizing that things that we've been doing or saying have possibly been hurting others. Heck, as a Brown, middle-aged woman who has been active in social justice circles (and this work is social justice minded) for a while now, I still have and always will have biases which are normal and part of the human condition. Guess what, you do too. This is hard to swallow but it's necessary in order to grow, move forward and hopefully be a better ally and role model for others. The way to manage this is to load up on the self-compassion and forgive yourself because that's the only way to remain open and avoid spiraling into a shame and blame cycle. 
     

  4. Go at your own pace and beware of comparing
    This is always good advice and applies to intuitive eating, body image work, social justice work, etc. We all have our unique journeys with incredibly unique circumstances. And, in all of that, some also have trauma that they are trying to understand and heal. All that affects our ability to learn, cope and respond in an effective manner. So, go easy on yourself and do your best not to compare your journey to anyone else's now or ever. 
     

  5. Step away when you need to
    Give yourself permission to step away from anything that is causing you anxiety, making you lose sleep, or affecting your mental health, etc. I don't think that means you need to step away from anything that makes you uncomfortable, but it does mean that instead of internalizing it, you can get curious about it instead. However, you are in charge of your body and you have to do what you feel called to do. If you find yourself retreating more than you'd like to, I invite you to consider the reasons why because I believe that's likely where the growth opportunity is. 
     

  6. Take a break to laugh!
    Now that things are loosening up and many states and countries are allowing some small gatherings, if you're comfortable going out, try to make time to be with loved ones and friends that lift you up. This is a great way to recharge your battery so you can keep being the fabulous person you are. Also, on a side note, I just discovered TikTok and when I need a giggle break, that's where I go for a good laugh! 

  7. Do your part and trust that it is enough
    Be realistic and acknowledge that there is only so much one person can do. Imagine how we could all benefit if everyone did just a little bit to acknowledge their privilege, biases, etc. ? The point is that what may seem “little” will add up and ripple throughout. If we believe that the “little” we are doing isn’t “enough” we may retreat and do nothing. I’m sure you would agree that’s not the answer. So, do what you can when you can and remain open to what is being presented to you. If it shows up for you, consider that it may be an invitation from the universe to look more closely. Refer back to tip #5 above for more on this.
     

  8. Hang out with us for support
    If you're not already part of my online Facebook community, join the No-Diet Sisterhood and follow me on Instagram. There is so much to learn on social media if it's managed properly (refer back to tip #1 above).

Your turn...
How are you doing with the recent events?
Has your self-care suffered during COVID and over the past two weeks?

Wherever you are and whatever you're feeling, I sincerely hope that some of these tips are useful for you. 

Was this message helpful? 
If you appreciate the work that I do, you can support my ability to do more of it by making a one-time donation or a recurring donation. I also accept Venmo payments @AntidietCoach. Thank you in advance for your support.